Talking about his family, was not unusual for Chrys, it just usually didn't happen quite like this and he usually had known someone for some time, though he wasn't exactly sure he couldn't say he didn't know Elio since they'd kind of gotten to know each other pretty well recently, well, maybe not so much recently but kind of in the last six months or so, which was probably not something he could say about most other people. It was nice to know that he and Elio, if he could be honest about it, could kind of have little moments like this, because Chrys had thought for a while that these kind of moments would be beyond his capabilities because he was usually the first person to run at the first sign of trouble, which was really not that great, and he knew that, but that didn't mean he could just change all of a sudden. So whilst he was normally uncomfortable and maybe to be honest he still kind of was, it was't to the extent that he felt he had to leave the situation. As strange as all of this kind of felt, Chrys felt like he could help Elio somehow and he really wasn't the type to laugh at the pain others were going through, not the real pain, that kind of thing was just not on brand for him. It was true that he wasn't always the nicest person to get to know, but if he liked someone, and he trusted someone, then he did try to go out of his way to help. That was a part of the Kaster DNA none of them could get away from. Even his Uncle, who was probably the biggest black sheep in the family, couldn't get away from that. Chrys took after his Uncle a lot, but to be honest, there was probably a part of Chrys, like really deep down, that just wanted someone to understand what he was going through with everything and whilst that wasn't this and he was here for Elio, to help him, or whatever he could do, he did hope that by maybe helping Elio he could take his mind off of his own problems for a while which maybe could help him process all of this. He missed Elsie too, obviously and he always would, but he understood, probably more than most people gave him credit for, what it was like to feel helpless in the face of someone you loved. He could identify and sympathise bits and pieces of Elio right here and now, that reminded him so much of his brother and of his dad, and of people who were putting everyone else first. Seeing all of that was maybe part of why Chrys was usually so self-absorbed, because maybe at some point, he made a promise to himself that he would never get to the point that he couldn't handle things anymore. It was a part of who he was now, and he didn't want to see Elio go in either direction if he could help it. Part of that, admittedly, was due to a selfish part of him that really liked Elio the way he was, but the other part of him knew that it was the right thing to do. "No, it's okay, how were you going to know any of that?" He asked, shrugging. It wasn't like it was coveted information, but it was hardly being screamed from the roof tops and besides it was so many years ago now, well, that part was. There was more to his life story, but he wasn't about to just sit down and reveal everything that had happened to him since he was like 3. That would be ridiculous and like, they'd be thee forever and possibly die of old age whilst he was speaking, well, maybe Elio would, since Chrys had already said he was going to live to be like 300 years old. And he'd still look fab. Chrys hadn't been paying enough attention though because he was very surprised when he felt Elio's fingers in his hair, not something he was expecting nor was it something he had felt in a long time, so it was probably a bit more welcome than he was letting on. He was trying to comfort Elio, not anything else, this was important. He knew that Elio liked physical affection and he had to assume, since they were even like this at all, that he wasn't getting what he needed from his other relationships. Chrys was so glad, that his love language wasn't physical touch or anything, so he didn't have to worry about it so much, though he did also like affection, he wasn't in such desperate need of it as the Gryffindor seemed to be. Not that he really could say, as he didn't know what was going on in Elio's head outside the stuff he was saying about Elsie and the things he was subsequently dealing with. Soon Elio's hand came to rest on the nape of Chrys' neck and Chrys had to close his eyes because he was trying to be good and he knew this wasn't the time or place to think about kissing Elio but that was unsurprisingly the first place his mind went. It didn't help that it was usually where his mind ended up anyway, but the point was this was about Elio needing comfort, from a friend, not something else. As Elio kept talking, Chrys tried not to focus on the hand on his neck, but instead on Elio, which really wasn't helping all that much, but, it was better than focusing on whatever the f*ck kind of massaging thing Elio was doing to his neck which, annoyingly felt really good. Chrys bit his lip, if this was Elio trying to work through sh*t then Chrys didn't want to stop him, but he knew he may have to at some point just for his own sanity. Elio spoke about feeling like he was drowning, and honestly, Chrys could understand that feeling. He felt like that constantly these days, after everything with Onyx and never getting to finish his conversation with Elsie, he would never know what advice she would have for him. He wished he'd sent her a letter earlier, because then maybe, even though she would still be gone, his last words to her wouldn't have been that she sucked. They'd been in jest, of course, but that didn't really help. He was having trouble thinking straight though, so he reached up and grabbed Elio's hand, to stop the massage for a moment. "Sorry, whilst I'm really enjoying that, it's not great for helping me focus on you... right now, so just... you know, gimme a sec." He took a second to breathe before continuing. "Feeling like your drowning, it's normal. People don't tell you how hard it is to be the strong one. They constantly say, be strong for them, your family you know, and I saw that a lot, but they also say that you need to take time for yourself. And you won't think it's true until you step back and you see it properly, you see it clearly," he said, stepping back and away from Elio as sort of a physical show of what he was talking about. "You need to look at the whole situation, and see what everyone is going through. You can't everyones flotation device. You need to be able to take time for you, because when you get full of water, you sink... do you... do you get what I'm trying to say?" He asked, not sure if he was really coming across great, since he'd never been great with expressing himself or emotions and things. "Emotionally, sometimes you need to be selfish, and take time for you..." he stepped up closer to Elio. "Then you come back stronger, more bendy, like, with time... better energy. You need to be you, but also be them, do you know?"